The Ride of Your Life

Marriage is like a rollercoaster—it makes you feel alive.

For a long time, marriage, to me, was about having a fairy-tale wedding and wearing the perfect dress. It was about making one day special, and that was it. Now, after being married for three years, I realise that the wedding day is only a very small part of married life. You can never be fully prepared or completely ready for marriage. It is about finding the love of your life and committing to walk through life together, in sickness and in health.

“Marriage is like a rollercoaster—it makes you feel alive.”

I was blessed to marry my best friend. We were best friends for five years before we fell in love. I know this may sound perfect, but it wasn’t always easy. Like any normal couple, we had our differences and disagreements. Yet, we had enough love to work through them. Eventually, we realised we were ready to tell the world, take our vows before God, and begin our life together. My wedding day was even better than I had imagined—not only because I married my prince charming, but also because I gained the most loving in-laws in the world.

Many people believe that marriage complicates life and that committing to one person for a lifetime is frightening. And yes, marriage does complicate life, and it does come with scary moments—but isn’t life about experiencing all of that? My husband and I faced our toughest challenges during our first year of marriage. Neither of us had lived away from home or shared a room with anyone before, so learning to share space, habits, and expectations was difficult. We are both strong-willed and opinionated, which often led to frequent arguments. There were moments when I wondered if I could ever live with him. But with time, we learned the art of adjustment. What truly held us together was our commitment to the vows we made on our wedding day.

“The wedding day is only a very small part of married life.”

He became my rock during moments of weakness and helplessness, always standing by me. I began to realise that despite our differences, we had grown comfortable with one another through our disagreements. He was the one person with whom I felt safe enough to reveal all my flaws. I knew I could share anything with him. Even when we fight, we cannot imagine life without each other—because we have become one. We are partners who choose to share not only life’s happiness but also its sadness, bitterness, and craziness.

“You can never be fully prepared for marriage; it is about committing to walk through life together, in sickness and in health.”

At our wedding, the pastor told us that we must make sure we love each other more with every passing year. This is something we reflect on together every anniversary, and for the past three years, we have managed to do just that. Everyone has a special someone, but marriage is also about letting go of fear and doubt and taking a leap of faith when you find that person. To those who believe marriage is risky, I would say yes—it is. But it is a risk worth taking if you desire a truly fulfilled life.