Infidelity: A deep issue of the Soul

It is a myth that a sexually satisfied partner will not be susceptible to infidelity. Infidelity is a matter of the mind and soul rather than merely the body. The body ultimately gives in to what the soul craves and what the mind dictates.

This disease called infidelity affects people from the highest offices to homes in the slums. Even prominent public figures have experienced infidelity within their families. Living in a time of sexual overexposure and a culture of increasingly loose morals, infidelity is on the rise. This is not a problem limited to either the rich or the poor; the corruption of the human mind is invasive and cuts across all social strata.

Infidelity is essentially a problem of the human soul and cannot be explained purely through sociology or psychology. What do we mean by a problem of the human soul? God created us as sexual beings with distinct polarity between the sexes. Our sexuality is God-given, and sex is intended for pleasure and procreation within the covenant of marriage between husband and wife.

Exposure to pornography at an early age, early sexual activity, or experiences of sexual abuse are common factors that damage a person’s perception of intimacy. Such experiences affect the inner core of a person—the human soul. For a damaged soul, intimacy becomes driven more by lust than by genuine love. Over time, lust begins to overpower commitment to marriage.

This is a sickness that needs serious attention. How do we heal such damaged souls? The first step is to seek help from the Creator of life. When individuals acknowledge their struggle and are willing to confess it, the process of healing begins. To guard oneself, it is important to have a strong accountability partner—someone who has the freedom to ask difficult questions.

In some cases, this accountability partner may be one’s spouse, though this may not always be effective. It is crucial to understand that crossing the boundary of marriage set by God always has serious and lasting consequences. When infidelity is recognized as sin, one realizes that it is not only against God and His principles, but also against one’s spouse. It is a clear violation of the boundary God has established for marriage.

An extramarital affair oversteps this boundary and is like a tsunami—dangerous and life-threatening.

This boundary can be compared to the boundary of the sea. Beaches are places of joy and relaxation because the sea remains within its God-appointed limits. We enjoy the assurance that the water will not cross those boundaries. However, when the sea crosses the boundary set by God, the result is a tsunami. In the same way, extramarital affairs—clearly outside the boundary of marriage—are destructive and devastating.

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Crossing the boundary God has set for marriage leads to deep destruction. If you are experiencing the “tsunami effect” in your marriage, it is vital to establish strong boundaries, seek God’s healing for your wounded soul, and make a firm commitment to honor and enjoy the God-given gift of marriage—till death do you part.

If you are facing such challenges in your marriage, we strongly encourage you to seek help from a counselor at the earliest.

You may contact our national help-line to be guided to the right support.

Home Shanti Help-Line: 1860-425-6555

We hope and pray that this will bring Shanti (peace) to your home.