How to get your teen to talk to you

By Connie Grigsby and Kent Julian

When we think of teenagers, the common image that often comes to mind is one of rebellion—storming out of the house, not listening to parents, and questioning authority. What we don’t often see, however, is meaningful communication between teens and their parents, which is essential for any relationship.

This book explores the vital aspect of communication and offers guidance on how to encourage your teen to open up and talk to you. There are no magic tricks or enchanting tips; instead, the authors draw on their own experiences, mistakes, and successes to help you navigate the challenges of parenting teens.

What makes this book unique is its approach of building a “life scrapbook” of positive memories rather than focusing on painful ones. It also sheds light on how teenagers think and the struggles they face, equipping you to empathize with them and respond more effectively.

While the main focus is on handling teens, the authors also discuss how married couples can share parenting responsibilities and approach challenges as a united family front, providing security for the child. They note that many family struggles with teens often stem from strain in the marriage.

The book is systematically organized into seven main topics, ranging from self-understanding to practical strategies for effective parenting. Rather than providing rigid “do’s and don’ts,” the authors share what has worked and what hasn’t based on their experience.

With 52 concise chapters, each well-explained and supported by quotes, examples, and theoretical insights, the book is practical and easy to fit into busy schedules. Parents can read a chapter a day or week, or search for topics relevant to their current challenges. Some chapters also include exceptional cases to deepen understanding.

If you have a teen—or even a pre-teen—I highly recommend this book. It is a valuable tool that equips you to be a more impactful and empathetic parent.